It’s a regular occurance to hear people, especially women, say that they hate parts of their body. So how can you achieve body confidence in a world of constant comparison?
Well for starters, we only have one body, so we might as well grow to damn well love it.
You could sit and constantly think about all the things about your body that you don’t like. What would be the point? It doesn’t change anything, it doesn’t alter your body in any way and it doesn’t magically make the parts you dislike disappear and come back anew. If anything, it makes the things you don’t like seem worse, making your self-confidence decrease.
Why spend time sad about the things you can’t change?
If there’s something you don’t like, do something about it. If it makes you feel better, cover that part up and think of the parts of yourself you love and accentuate them.
Beyonce once said in an interview that she doesn’t like her ears because she thinks they’re too big. Because of this, she wears big earrings to try to offset how big they are. Beyonce, the ultimate queen of pop, has got a hangup just like the rest of us, but she does something about it to make herself feel better. Do we all talk about how big her ears are? No, we talk about how amazing she is. We don’t notice that small niggle she has. Just like the chances are very high that other people don’t notice those things that you dislike about yourself that you constantly fret about.
What you see as imperfections might be the parts of you that other people love and wish they had themselves.
What you see, isn’t what everybody else is seeing.
During Gok Wan’s TV show, How to Look Good Naked, he would line up several women of various sizes and they would stand in order according to their dress size. The main participant of the show would then be told to put herself into where she believed she would fit in the line. Every single time, the participants would place themselves in completely the wrong places, always believing they were much larger than they actually were. They were always in shock when Gok would pull them out of the line and move them down past several ladies who were larger than them. Because we always see ourselves in a different way to how everyone else sees us, and this TV show proved time and time again that we are so hard on ourselves, when we really shouldn’t be.
We are so self critical. We look at ourselves every day, so obviously we’re going to scrutinize every single part of ourselves, notice things other people will never notice and critique every tiny part of ourselves. The ironic thing is that by doing that, we are ending up deciding we don’t like certain parts of our bodies.
We always seem to want what we can’t have, the grass always appears to be greener, but that part of someone else you wish you had? They might just be thinking the same about you.
We are so guilty of feeling we need to compete with everyone all the time. Constant comparison has turned into an epidemic. Instead of comparing the way we look to everyone else, we need to embrace and celebrate our uniqueness and our beauty. The world would be a very boring place if we all looked the same.
Love yourself for who you are and for how incredible you are. Be like Beyonce – be too busy being fabulous to worry about what you see as your imperfections.