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Worrying about the future: don’t let life pass you by

Worrying about the future - don't let life pass you by

Something I’ve always been since a young age is a terrible worrier. It’s just in my nature. As the years have gone by, it’s really taken it’s toll on me. I’ve felt physically ill and lay awake so many nights unable to sleep because of the stress. Worrying about the future has been a constant feature in my mind, and it’s something I’ve been trying hard to reduce over the last few years.

Not long ago, I was reading The Weirdest Thing About Being In Your Late Twenties by the lovely Sophie Cliff. She mentions how she feels her early twenties flew past, with a focus on having no money, rather than enjoying the years and what they had to offer. This really resonated with me. Now that I have the benefit of hindsight, I realise that I spent way too much time and energy during my late teens and early twenties worrying about the future.

I vividly remember worrying about whether I would ever find someone to settle down with. I mean, what if all my friends met lovely partners and I never found ‘the one’? Will I ever get married? What kind of career will I be able to get? Will I ever be able to afford a nice house? What if I end up stuck in a job I hate?

The list goes on. The ironic thing is that I look back, tell myself off for constantly asking these questions, rather than enjoying myself, and then go back to worrying about the future again. I don’t seem to learn do I?

As it turns out, there have been struggles, times of sadness and regrets over the last few years. But I did meet ‘the one’, I got married and had the most amazing wedding day and we’re about to move to a lovely house. So really, I worried about those things for nothing.

Life is easy

Some time ago, having had enough of worrying about everything all the time, I started to tell myself that life is easy. Sure, it felt like a lie at first. But in time, it’s helped me tremendously. It’s something I try to remind myself of whenever I find that I’ve fallen back into the trap of worrying about the future, of fearing the worst. It’s an important reminder to think positively and enjoy every day.

Living for the moment is so crucial to happiness and fulfilment. I don’t want to look back in many years to come and once again have regrets about the amount of time I wasted being fearful of the future, rather than relishing the good things that are already happening.

It’s an ongoing mission of mine, and I’m so glad that Sophie’s blog post once again reminded me of the importance of not worrying about the future. The last thing I want in many years to come is to feel that I’ve let life pass me by without really enjoying it.

So, here’s to learning from past mistakes, relishing the present and looking forward to the future.

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10 Comments

  • Reply
    abbeylouisarose
    21st September 2017 at 12:31

    Jenny, this post resonated so much with me! At 22, I’m still in my early twenties but I can definitely still look back and kick myself about all the times I wasted with worry! During my undergraduate studies, I was racked with worry about not achieving the best possible grades, and it took over my entire life! I neglected friendships and relationships, and missed out on a few experiences that I wish I hadn’t, all because of my worries and the pressure I put myself under! I like your “life is easy” mantra, it can be so if you make it! Thanks for sharing this thought provoking post!

    Abbey ❤️ http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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      LuxeStyle
      24th September 2017 at 17:41

      Thank you for such a lovely comment Abbey – it sounds like you put yourself under so much pressure too. I’ve found the ‘life is easy’ mantra to be so helpful x

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    Kim
    21st September 2017 at 21:06

    Like you, I worry all the time, even when it doesn’t help the situation! Thank you for the lovely reminder to worry less. Life should not be lived in fear!

    Kim
    Simply Lovebirds

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      LuxeStyle
      24th September 2017 at 17:46

      It doesn’t help at all does it, so I don’t know why we do it! I totally agree with you 🙂 x

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    Layla
    22nd September 2017 at 00:20

    Such a beautiful post and I love seeing motivational posts like this which can help one another! Lovely hun!

    Hope you’re well!

    Layla xx

    http://www.sprinklesofstyle.co.uk

    • Reply
      LuxeStyle
      24th September 2017 at 18:33

      Thanks so much for your lovely comment Layla! xx

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    Gabrielle
    22nd September 2017 at 20:30

    I absolutely love how your story has a happy one – you’ve settled down and in a really happy place in life, so happy for you! I’ll definitely be taking your advice on board – to stop worrying so much in my twenties about the future. Very, very wise words (and just what I needed to hear, so thank you!)

    aglassofice.com
    x

    • Reply
      LuxeStyle
      24th September 2017 at 18:47

      Thanks so much Gabrielle 🙂 So glad you enjoyed the post – I find I’m so much happier and enjoying life so much more when I stop worrying so much and live for the here and now x

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    Kara Aragon
    23rd September 2017 at 19:06

    I can related to this post all to well. Stress consumes my life & it definitely does make it hard to live in the moment. I mean at this very second I’m typing this I’m stressing not only about what I have to do today but about something I don’t want to do tomorrow, two days later, & a two trips I have next month, plus a jillion other things. I do feel the physical toll on my body & it affects my life way too much. I honestly don’t know how to fix it. Your post talks of some mind over matter & I wish it were that easy. I do enjoy the “little things” so hopefully I’ll just magically chill out on the stress one day. Great post & I hope you continue to do better at living in the moment!

    Kara Aragon
    http://www.thekaragon.com

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      LuxeStyle
      24th September 2017 at 18:53

      I’m so sorry to hear you struggle with stress and worry – I know exactly how you feel! I’ve found that I am getting much better at trying to live in the here and now and enjoying the moment, but I know it can be hard sometimes x

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