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Why we all need to stop competing and just create

Why we all need to stop competing and start creating

I regularly see so many people, bloggers in particular, putting themselves down. I see them comparing themselves to others, saying they feel they’re not getting anywhere, their blog isn’t growing as quickly as they had hoped and they feel like they’re never going to get their blog to the place they would like it to be.

This makes me so sad.

There are so many blogs out there now and so many of them have such big numbers of followers, people commenting on each post and so on. It can be all too easy to see someone have thousands of loyal followers and wonder where we are going wrong.

But the truth of the matter is, we often don’t know the full backgrounds of these bloggers. Some of them have been blogging tirelessly for years and years, putting in hard work day in, day out. Of course we’re not going to have the same numbers of loyal fans as they do. There are many who have a background that is going to help them to get off to a seriously good start at setting up their own blog, whether they are a qualified photographer, someone who works in PR or maybe they have been writing a blog for their workplace for several years. There are many claims that some social media accounts with a large following have paid for fake followers. You never know the full story behind anyone else’s blog/website/business, so don’t be put off by what you see others achieving.

We need to start having a creative mindset rather than a competitive one. I truly believe there is a place for everyone when it comes to blogging. I’ve heard so many people say the blogosphere is saturated. And I guess it kinda is. But to be honest, who cares? Blogging is one of so many areas where I personally think the more there are, the better.

I started reading one blog a few years ago that I adored, but did I stop at reading just that one? No. I went out in search of more. When I saw how much I enjoyed reading blogs, I wanted to find more and more to follow. I’m still always on the lookout for more great blogs to read and more Youtube videos to watch. There are so many people writing about the things that I’m passionate about in so many different ways and with so many new and fresh ideas that provide me with more inspiration and new ways of thinking.

When you find something you adore, keep at it and don’t give up just because other people are more successful than you currently are. There’s always going to be someone who is more successful than you at pretty much everything, but does that mean you should decide to quit?

Just imagine if every single other blogger out there looked at Zoella and decided they can’t compete with her, so why bother? There would be a ridiculously huge number of bloggers who are now very successful in their own right, many of whom have now turned it into their full-time job, people who have gathered thousands and thousands of loyal followers who would have given it all up before they found success. All because someone else has achieved more than them.

Comparison is the thief of joy

When I sit down at my laptop or my notebook and start writing, the words just flow. I feel so inspired, so in love with writing and so passionate about my blog. My blog is still relatively new and I don’t have a huge number of followers anywhere yet, but my numbers keep steadily rising, and that’s honestly all that counts. When you start comparing yourself with everyone else, you start losing the passion and the love for blogging.

If blogging is something you adore and you feel a burning desire to share your ideas/tips/advice with the world, don’t get disheartened when everyone around you seems to be doing better than you. Use your favourite bloggers as inspiration – they are proof that you can achieve what you want to achieve. It’s so important that you follow your dreams and put out into the blogosphere that something special that you have to offer.

Forget being competitive. You don’t need to be. You don’t need to worry about what everyone else is doing. Just focus on yourself and enjoy every moment.

 

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33 Comments

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    Victoria
    12th February 2017 at 15:30

    I definitely needed to read this today. I waste so many pointless hours of my life comparing my blog/Instagram feed to other bloggers that I forget about the reason why I started in the first place – to inspire others. Now I’m all about getting creative rather than competitive! 🙂 love this post Jenny!

    Victoria x

    http://www.apartmentnumber4.com

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      LuxeStyle
      12th February 2017 at 15:35

      Oh thank you so much Victoria! Your lovely comment means such a lot. I adore your blog! Jenny x

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    Fay
    12th February 2017 at 16:24

    I completely agree with you! Comparison really is something that we all need to give up the ghost with as everyone has something that others are willing to listen to/read about etc. Great post x

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      LuxeStyle
      12th February 2017 at 18:37

      Thank you! Yes everyone has something special to offer that other people will love to read about x

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    Izzy McLeod
    12th February 2017 at 18:16

    This is so lovely and positive, I see so many negative articles from bloggers about other bloggers and although blogging is saturated it’s a place people can have their own space! I think a lot of blogging is becoming monotonised because people are trying to compete and compare themselves rather than just creating and doing what they want. Loved this!

    The Quirky Queer

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      LuxeStyle
      13th February 2017 at 18:05

      Thank you! Yes, I really hope people can be inspired to forget what everyone else is doing and to create whatever the hell they want to 🙂 Thanks so much for the lovely comment!

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    the Fashion Matters
    12th February 2017 at 18:21

    thanks for this very inspirational

    x

    THE FASHION MATTERS- Travel & Fashion blog | INSTAGRAM: TheFashionMatters

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    Nicky
    12th February 2017 at 22:09

    I couldn’t agree with you more! Awesome post!

    http://www.brooklynglam.com/

    • Reply
      LuxeStyle
      13th February 2017 at 18:08

      Thank you for a lovely comment x

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    Shakira
    13th February 2017 at 03:09

    I really enjoyed this post and it’s really inspire me to keep going with my blog even when it doesn’t always feel like 1000s of people are reading it! Thank you for this x

    SHAKIRA / SHAKIRA SACKS

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      LuxeStyle
      16th February 2017 at 10:26

      I’m so glad you enjoyed it and that it’s inspired you. Thank you for a lovely comment x

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    Imogen
    14th February 2017 at 16:13

    I really enjoyed this post. Everything you said is completely spot on and its so true that we should use our favourite bloggers as inspiration! xx

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      LuxeStyle
      16th February 2017 at 19:08

      Oh thank you lovely! Yes! They are amazing inspiration xx

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    Corinne
    15th February 2017 at 20:00

    I always think you should only compare yourself to your past self and be proud of how far you have come 🙂

    Corinne x

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      LuxeStyle
      16th February 2017 at 19:17

      Yes – so true! Nothing better than seeing your progress 🙂 x

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    Nital
    16th February 2017 at 11:12

    Such a wonderful post and so true! Do it because you love it! We all feel like that at times and I know I have myself but I enjoy doing it and will continue for that reason alone.

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      LuxeStyle
      17th February 2017 at 06:57

      Thank you! Doing what you love is the best feeling 🙂

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    Gabrielle
    16th February 2017 at 17:06

    This is such a lovely post and packed full with so many good points – ‘Comparison is thief of joy’, that’s for sure! You’re quite right about many bloggers turning to buying followers too, it’s so disappointing, but I suppose the best counteraction is to create a blog that ‘feels’ good and not just ‘looks’ good 🙂 Have a lovely weekend!

    aglassofice.com
    x

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      LuxeStyle
      17th February 2017 at 07:03

      Thank you! I totally agree with you – having a blog that feels good is so important 🙂 x

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    Kerstin
    17th February 2017 at 11:07

    Absolutely agree with you. Thank you so much for sharing your opinion on this. I always catch myself being envious of other bloggers or competing with them while I’m 100% sure there’s no need to do so. We’re all unique and there’s plenty of space for each and every single one of us 🙂

    Love, Kerstin
    http://www.missgetaway.com/

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      LuxeStyle
      17th February 2017 at 14:51

      I couldn’t agree with you more 🙂 We all need to see that there is space for everybody – the blogging world is much richer the more of us there are. Thank you for a lovely comment x

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    Suma Fiore
    17th February 2017 at 19:56

    Simply lovely 🙂 I’ve been going through a confidence drop this week. not so much at the competition level, but because I’m starting to doubt my own content and haven’t been feeling very inspired lately. But your words are such a brilliant reminder to really just have great fun with it. Found you on Lauren’s blog “This Stuff Is Golden”. Can’t wait for more of your posts!

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      LuxeStyle
      19th February 2017 at 15:31

      Oh it was so lovely of her to feature my post on her blog! I hope you start enjoying your content again and find inspiration. Thank you for a lovely comment! x

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    Madara
    20th February 2017 at 16:55

    Very nice post! It is refreshing once in a while read a reminder that you are enough. 🙂 Even if blogging world is saturated, it shouldn’t be a reason for not starting a blog, if that’s what you want.
    Madara
    http://lookforsmile.com

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      LuxeStyle
      23rd February 2017 at 16:17

      Thank you! Totally – the more the merrier I say! x

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    abbeylouisarose
    23rd February 2017 at 10:21

    Such a wonderfully positive post, Jenny! Just what the blogging community needs! My blog isn’t the biggest and if I spent time comparing it to a lot of others, I’d probably feel pretty down in the dumps about it, but you know what? I’m super proud of my blog and how far it’s come in just 7 months! Comparison is indeed the thief of joy, and it’s just great to hear that you’re so inspired by and passionate about blogging! We need more positive people like you!

    Abbey ? http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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      LuxeStyle
      23rd February 2017 at 16:36

      Oh you superstar you! Thank you for such a lovely comment 🙂 I think you definitely should be proud of how well you’re doing! x

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    Maggie
    24th February 2017 at 09:21

    I’ve just come across your blog and absolutely loved reading this post! Unfortunately in today’s world it’s far too easy to benchmark yourself against others as the statistics are all there for everyone to see but as you rightly put, you don’t know the story behind each blog and you never know whether some bloggers may have purchased followers or even used bots! I love doing my own thing and I’m so happy within myself that I have no time in comparing myself to others – it’s wasted time and energy which is much better spent creating new content 🙂 Maggie xx

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      LuxeStyle
      1st March 2017 at 12:39

      Oh thank you so much! That is definitely the best attitude to have – enjoy what you’re doing so much that you have no time to compare yourself to everyone else 🙂 X

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    Rachel Moss
    9th March 2017 at 08:24

    I love this post and am now subscribed because of it, so thank you- I look forward to following you!
    This post is important and so relevant with how we live today. There are constant comparisons being made especially now we are saturated in social media.
    I am an identical twin, so I grew up being compared to all the time. I never saw myself the way others saw me. We have our differences and our own strengths and weaknesses. No one decides for us how we should ‘be’ and look and live. Being a twin helped me enormously when it came to doing my job as a style coach. I can truly see every single person as a unique individual, because even as twins, we are completely different. Love Rachel xx

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      LuxeStyle
      16th March 2017 at 21:09

      Oh thank you so much for such a fab comment! I’ve always thought it must be incredible to have a twin – to have someone who is so similar to you in many ways, as well as your differences, and to have such a strong bond xx

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