I mentioned in my June luxe letter that it’s over 4 years now since I got married. For me, wedding planning was fun and exciting, although daunting and sometimes stressful. There is so much pressure to get everything the way you want it so that you have a fabulous day. I wanted to share 5 wedding tips with you, based on my experience.
1. Begin planning well in advance
Many people will probably have more time than we had to plan a wedding. Thinking back, I think we had about 8 months to get everything arranged. When there is so much to organise, time flies by.
If you find a supplier you really want to hire, I would suggest you speak to them as soon as you can to establish how long their waiting list is or to check that they have your date available.
An amazing wedding stationer was recommended to us. Presuming they would only have a short waiting list, I wasn’t in any hurry to get in touch with them. After browsing their beautiful creations online and setting quite firmly in my head which design I wanted and how I imagined it to be, I phoned them to make arrangements. Sadly, it turned out their waiting list was so long that they couldn’t provide my wedding stationery. To say I was disappointed was a bit of an understatement.
If a business is really popular and is being recommended by other suppliers and venues, I really recommend you get in touch with them sooner rather than later. I learnt this the hard way!
2. Wedding fayres at wedding venues can be extremely helpful
When I was planning my wedding, I never visited a huge wedding fayre. I’m not going to say that it isn’t a good idea to visit them. In fact, I would imagine they provide a huge amount of inspiration and contacts. However, I think I would have found them a little overwhelming.
From my experience, visiting smaller wedding fayres held at wedding venues themselves can be really beneficial. All of these events I’ve visited have been free to attend. Many of the these fayres or showcases will only have recommended suppliers there too, which is a major plus point.
You are of course going to want businesses who will be reliable and care about doing a really good job at your wedding. Sometimes it can be hard to get a real insight into wedding suppliers from just their website. Meeting the business owners face to face and knowing that they’re recommended by a good venue can really help in choosing who will be the perfect fit for your big day. It can really save time too, having a car hire company, wedding stationer, cake maker etc all under one roof.
Some wedding fayres provide free drinks and canapes, plus there is sometimes cake to sample, so it can be a lovely little trip out. You may find that some suppliers will offer small discounts when you visit the fayre too, which is always a bonus!
3. It’s your day, so do what you want to do
Your wedding day is all about you as a couple. Everything should be the way you want it to be. I would say that there is probably always going to be somebody who is unhappy with something. My advice would be to try not to worry about it!
We made what is often seen as a controversial choice for our wedding day, choosing to have no children there. We both really wanted a small wedding. So many of our friends and family have children, that inviting them all would double the number of guests. Whilst most guests were perfectly understanding of this, one guest decided they wouldn’t attend because they were angry their children weren’t invited. Their response was quite shocking at the time, but we were grateful that everyone else understood.
At our wedding, several guests wanted to bring plus ones. Some of these partners we had never met before and some were brand new partners. Allowing lots of plus ones is something else that greatly expands the guest list. After trying to keep them to a minimum, we were then contacted by some guests, requesting to be able to bring a plus one. Giving into the pressure, we expanded the guest list to include them. Several have now split up with their partner, so there are faces on our wedding photos that were and will remain complete strangers to us. Another person invited as a plus one actually caused drama on the day.
Plus ones really do need serious thought!
4. Allow plenty of time to get ready on the day
On my wedding day, we did really well for time, although it was still pretty rushed at the end! The time honestly flies by so quickly.
Our hairdresser couldn’t believe how calm we all were. Whilst I was the opposite of calm on the inside, allowing a really good amount of time to get ready meant that we weren’t rushing around worrying about the time. In contrast, when my close friend got married, I arrived at her house quite some time before we needed to leave and everyone was panicking. People were rushing around everywhere because they were all running late. It made me feel so relieved that my Mum had planned my wedding morning the way she did.
Things will take longer than you think and there will always be little issues to be sorted. When I think back to my own day, my make up artist’s car broke down while she was on the motorway, one of my bridesmaid’s dresses didn’t fit properly and another bridesmaid forget to bring her make up. Allowing extra time ensures that little problems can be fixed without them becoming even more stressful.
5. Enjoy every single moment
On the morning of my wedding day, I was terribly nervous. I may even go so far as to say terrified. The thought of walking down the aisle and having all eyes on me was making me feel sick. When I was struggling with my nerves and panicking, my Mum told me that I should focus on trying to enjoy every moment of the entire day, including getting ready. She said I would regret it if I didn’t. She was completely right!
Sitting in my old bedroom, my nails manicured, a hairdresser styling my hair and a make up artist skillfully applying my make up was the most amazing experience. To be made to feel like a million dollars and have close family and bridesmaids getting ready around you, all focused on you and your day is something to be truly relished!
Enjoy every single part of the day because it will honestly be the most magical experience. Let everyone else worry about making sure things are running smoothly and just focus on enjoying yourself.
My wedding day was certainly the best day of my life so far and one I will always treasure. I hope that this will be the same or has been the same for you too.
Let me know if you’re planning to get married, or if you’re already married and have any wedding tips for all those brides and grooms-to-be!