Creating and writing my own blog has been a more fabulous experience than I imagined. Here are 5 things blogging has taught me about myself:
1. I care less what others think of me
I’ve realised that I actually worry a lot less about what other people think of me nowadays. Frequently seeing so many social media comments and blog posts where people say they hate the way they look makes me very sad.
I used to struggle so much with self-confidence, focussing on every part of me that I didn’t like. I used to worry all the time about how I was coming across to others and criticise myself for saying stupid things.
I’ve come to realise that my confidence has come a long way since I was a teenager, when I really struggled with the way I looked and with who I was. Seeing how much others talk about their struggles helps to show how far I’ve come. Writing my post about achieving body confidence really helped to emphasise this point to myself.
2. I still worry what others think of me
Nevertheless, I’ve also realised that I still worry about what people think of me! Taking and looking at so many photographs of myself means that I scrutinise what I look like on a regular basis.
No matter how far we all come with being confident about ourselves, I think we will always have small niggles. In my opinion, age helps so much with this. As I get older, I’m so much more confident in my own skin and it’s quite liberating! Being a blogger and critiquing my appearance on photographs serves as a reminder to me to focus on the parts of myself that I love and to keep on working on loving myself.
3. I care too much about upsetting others
I worry far too much about upsetting other people. I’m one of those people that believes in the saying ‘if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all’. This was something I heard so many times when growing up and it’s still something I completely believe in and advocate today. I hate the thought of upsetting other people. I would much rather compliment and support others. However, I think that sometimes this makes me hold back from expressing my views on things.
It can be very hard to gain support, readers, followers and so on for a blog that’s still relatively new compared to so many other much more established blogs. Not wanting to lose any followers or readers, I feel like I’m constantly critiquing and filtering what I say. This is quite possibly linked to worrying what others think of me and it’s something I really want to try to overcome.
I’ve noticed that it’s often the case in real life too. In the past, I think I’ve possibly been too much of a people-pleaser. I wrote a post about how I’ve found it’s so important to learn to say no, after agreeing to do so many things just because I don’t like to let anyone down. I’m starting to finally see that it’s a fine balance between being the right amount of selfless and selfish.
Sometimes, I think that being a little more selfish is a good thing.
4. My love of homes and interiors is huge
Homes and interiors is a big passion of mine. Before I started blogging, I enjoyed looking at inspirational decor and interiors ideas. Becoming a blogger has really reaffirmed my love of this.
Photographing before and after shots of furniture makeovers and tracking the progress of our home has been such a fun experience. It used to feel like a shame to take photos of our makeover progress, just for them to sit on my computer, never seeing the light of day. Being able to share them with the world is exciting, if not a little daunting, I will admit.
It can be scary to put a photo of a corner of my home that I love and I’m proud of onto the internet for everyone to see. In a world full of Pinterest-worthy inspirational interiors, it can be all too easy to look at my bedroom that’s still a work in progress and think it’s not good enough to be uploaded. I think that, yet again, time is a big helper for this.
The more I post on my blog, the more confidence I gain. After all, I’m all about being ‘real’ on my blog and using minimal editing on all my photos. It’s the most amazing thing to reminisce on how our home first looked when we purchased it and to see the renovations and updates we’ve made. If you fancy a laugh, take a peek at the before photos of our first home together!
Also, I can now say that browsing Pinterest for hours on end and catching up on interiors blogs is part of my blogging work. What better excuse!
Oh and speaking of Pinterest, I would love to gain some more followers over there, so feel free to come on over!
5. I’m incredibly lucky
Very often, I think it can be all too easy to look around us and compare our lives with others. We can nip onto Instagram, Twitter or Pinterest and see photo after photo showcasing ultra glamorous and inspirational lifestyles. There is a danger that we can fall into the competitive game, feeling the need to compete with everyone else to match the way they live their lives.
Writing this blog means I really get to sit back and think about my life. It encourages me to photograph and document the improvements we’ve made to our home, our travels, the delicious food we enjoy and days out. It causes me to really look at everything I own and experience. And the reality is that I have a life that I’m so grateful for.
When I read my blog posts back, I’m filled with lovely memories, even from the simplest of things like a relaxing walk in the park and a lakeside picnic with delicious homemade treats. I’m reminded of the fact that we have our own house that we’ve taken our time to update into a wonderful home. That in itself is such a blessing to me. Sometimes we forget how many things we have to be grateful for, and this blog has been an amazing showcase for so many joyful experiences.
These 5 things blogging has taught me have been really positive. They’re yet more reasons that I’m really glad I started a blog.
I would love to hear your thoughts and if you feel that blogging has taught you anything.