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5 things blogging has taught me about myself

5 things blogging has taught me

Creating and writing my own blog has been a more fabulous experience than I imagined. Here are 5 things blogging has taught me about myself:

 

1. I care less what others think of me

I’ve realised that I actually worry a lot less about what other people think of me nowadays. Frequently seeing so many social media comments and blog posts where people say they hate the way they look makes me very sad.

I used to struggle so much with self-confidence, focussing on every part of me that I didn’t like. I used to worry all the time about how I was coming across to others and criticise myself for saying stupid things.

I’ve come to realise that my confidence has come a long way since I was a teenager, when I really struggled with the way I looked and with who I was. Seeing how much others talk about their struggles helps to show how far I’ve come. Writing my post about achieving body confidence really helped to emphasise this point to myself.

Body Confidence: How To Learn to Love the Way you Look

 

2. I still worry what others think of me

Nevertheless, I’ve also realised that I still worry about what people think of me! Taking and looking at so many photographs of myself means that I scrutinise what I look like on a regular basis.

No matter how far we all come with being confident about ourselves, I think we will always have small niggles. In my opinion, age helps so much with this. As I get older, I’m so much more confident in my own skin and it’s quite liberating! Being a blogger and critiquing my appearance on photographs serves as a reminder to me to focus on the parts of myself that I love and to keep on working on loving myself.

 

3. I care too much about upsetting others

I worry far too much about upsetting other people. I’m one of those people that believes in the saying ‘if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all’. This was something I heard so many times when growing up and it’s still something I completely believe in and advocate today. I hate the thought of upsetting other people. I would much rather compliment and support others. However, I think that sometimes this makes me hold back from expressing my views on things.

It can be very hard to gain support, readers, followers and so on for a blog that’s still relatively new compared to so many other much more established blogs. Not wanting to lose any followers or readers, I feel like I’m constantly critiquing and filtering what I say. This is quite possibly linked to worrying what others think of me and it’s something I really want to try to overcome.

I’ve noticed that it’s often the case in real life too. In the past, I think I’ve possibly been too much of a people-pleaser. I wrote a post about how I’ve found it’s so important to learn to say no, after agreeing to do so many things just because I don’t like to let anyone down. I’m starting to finally see that it’s a fine balance between being the right amount of selfless and selfish.

Sometimes, I think thatΒ being a little more selfish is a good thing.

Why I've found that learning to say no is so important

 

4. My love of homes and interiors is huge

Homes and interiors is a big passion of mine. Before I started blogging, I enjoyed looking at inspirational decor and interiors ideas. Becoming a blogger has really reaffirmed my love of this.

Photographing before and after shots of furniture makeovers and tracking the progress of our home has been such a fun experience. It used to feel like a shame to take photos of our makeover progress, just for them to sit on my computer, never seeing the light of day. Being able to share them with the world is exciting, if not a little daunting, I will admit.

It can be scary to put a photo of a corner of my home that I love and I’m proud of onto the internet for everyone to see. In a world full of Pinterest-worthy inspirational interiors, it can be all too easy to look at my bedroom that’s still a work in progress and think it’s not good enough to be uploaded. I think that, yet again, time is a big helper for this.

The more I post on my blog, the more confidence I gain. After all, I’m all about being ‘real’ on my blog and using minimal editing on all my photos. It’s the most amazing thing to reminisce on how our home first looked when we purchased it and to see the renovations and updates we’ve made. If you fancy a laugh, take a peek at the before photos of our first home together!

Also, I can now say that browsing Pinterest for hours on end and catching up on interiors blogs is part of my blogging work. What better excuse!

Oh and speaking of Pinterest, I would love to gain some more followers over there, so feel free to come on over!

 

5. I’m incredibly lucky

Very often, I think it can be all too easy to look around us and compare our lives with others. We can nip onto Instagram, Twitter or Pinterest and see photo after photo showcasing ultra glamorous and inspirational lifestyles. There is a danger that we can fall into the competitive game, feeling the need to compete with everyone else to match the way they live their lives.

Writing this blog means I really get to sit back and think about my life. It encourages me to photograph and document the improvements we’ve made to our home, our travels, the delicious food we enjoy and days out. It causes me to really look at everything I own and experience. And the reality is that I have a life that I’m so grateful for.

When I read my blog posts back, I’m filled with lovely memories, even from the simplest of things like a relaxing walk in the park and a lakeside picnic with delicious homemade treats. I’m reminded of the fact that we have our own house that we’ve taken our time to update into a wonderful home. That in itself is such a blessing to me. Sometimes we forget how many things we have to be grateful for, and this blog has been an amazing showcase for so many joyful experiences.

 

These 5 things blogging has taught me have been really positive. They’re yet more reasons that I’m really glad I started a blog.

I would love to hear your thoughts and if you feel that blogging has taught you anything.

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38 Comments

  • Reply
    Lydia
    9th July 2017 at 14:20

    Blogging is so amazing, it’s so incredible how doing something can help people to learn and experience new things!

    http://www.lydstaple.co.uk

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      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:30

      Isn’t it?! I love how much it’s taught me x

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    CM
    9th July 2017 at 15:53

    UInteresting post, dear! (:

    CM | XIII.

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    Noor (Clothes & Dreams)
    9th July 2017 at 16:26

    I’ve learned so much of blogging too! I’ve also gained a lot of confidence through it! πŸ˜€

    xo Noor

    • Reply
      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:32

      I’m so glad to hear it’s benefited you too πŸ™‚ x

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    Tatjana
    10th July 2017 at 10:23

    I love reading these sort of posts, as our community grows we grow with it as well.
    Thanks so much for sharing and have an amazing new week beauty.
    Love from https://tbymallano.com/

    • Reply
      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:33

      Thanks so much! Yes I love how much we are all learning along the way x

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    Ankita Bardhan
    10th July 2017 at 11:54

    I can understand how you feel, kinda sailing in the same boat honey! Thank you for sharing a part of you with us πŸ™‚
    xx
    https://simpliannie.wordpress.com/

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      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:35

      Glad you agree πŸ™‚ Thanks for commenting x

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    Amy-Anne
    10th July 2017 at 18:52

    Ohmygod I relate to the whole caring too much about upsetting people thing. I recently wrote a post about why you should visit Wales with some pointers as to why Wales is better than England but I haven’t posted it yet because I’m scared it will be offensive haha.

    Amy;
    Little Moon Elephant

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      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:37

      I’m so glad it’s not just me! Well maybe it’s because it’s because you know you’re wrong haha πŸ™‚ Wales is definitely scenic and picturesque though! Thanks so much for commenting x

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    Gabrielle
    10th July 2017 at 23:21

    It’s so important to occasionally reflect on this, and I’m loving your thoughts in this post! Discovering a love for home/interior design is a great thing to have found out about yourself, and number 5 is really lovely πŸ™‚

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice x

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      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:42

      Thanks so much lovely! It’s been such a good thing for me x

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    Peppermint Dolly
    11th July 2017 at 10:32

    High-Fives everywhere – all throughout this post – virtual High-Fives EVERYWHERE!!

    Rebecca
    xx
    http://www.peppermintdolly.com

    • Reply
      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:42

      Haha awww thanks so much lovely! x

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    Jessica Jade
    11th July 2017 at 10:38

    I can definitely relate to this! especially number three but I think my confidence has grown a lot recently and I’m not worrying half as much as I used to!

    Jess xx | jessicajadebeauty.com

    • Reply
      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:42

      I’m so glad your confidence has grown too πŸ™‚ Thanks for commenting lovely x

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    lavinya royes
    11th July 2017 at 18:45

    Blogging is amazing but it does come with its share of ups and downs. I relate so much to number 2 because I’m always second guessing if the content I produce is content people want to see but sometimes you gotta write posts that make you happy and proud to create! – great post – x

    Lavinya Royes – Fashion & Lifestyle Blog

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      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:43

      Yes it definitely comes with it’s share of ups and downs – totally agree! I agree, definitely best to write what you love to write about. Thanks so much for commenting x

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    Shaira
    12th July 2017 at 11:45

    So much feels for this post! I developed self confidence and I learned to love and take care of myself more. I also learned to appreciate art through those interiors and designs!!! <3

    xoxo,
    SHAIRA
    http://www.missdream-girl.blogspot.com

    • Reply
      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:44

      So glad to hear your confidence is improving. Thanks so much for commenting x

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    Corinne
    12th July 2017 at 18:01

    I love this! I think blogging has taught me not to care what other think. There’s so much nastiness lately in blogging and it’s best just to let it go!

    Corinne x

    • Reply
      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:48

      Thanks so much lovely! Yes there’s so much drama and I can’t be doing with any of it x

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    Rach
    12th July 2017 at 18:06

    It’s crazy how a hobby like blogging can teach so much life lessons! Thanks for sharing this and I totally agree with all the times you shared!

    http://www.rdsobsessions.com

    • Reply
      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:55

      Isn’t it just?! I never knew how much I would learn from it! Thanks so much lovely x

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    Anja
    12th July 2017 at 22:08

    Great post! πŸ™‚ Since I start blogging I endlessly discover new benefits from it. Now I recommend it to every one πŸ™‚

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      LuxeStyle
      13th July 2017 at 16:55

      Thanks so much! Yes I’m so glad I started mine, such a good experience x

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    Steph
    14th July 2017 at 08:19

    Great post!
    It’s a perfect post for reflection!
    Blogging has taught me so much. I’m still working on not comparing myself… but i’m getting there.

    Steph
    http://www.socialspying.com

    • Reply
      LuxeStyle
      18th July 2017 at 11:50

      Thanks so much! It can be so hard can’t it x

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    Julia
    19th July 2017 at 09:44

    Number 3 really sounds like me as well, even when I’m writing my posts I’m always pretty careful because I don’t want to ever have someone read my blog and get offended! Same goes for social media as well, it’s like a fine line between saying your honest opinions and dissing someone else’s beliefs sometimes.

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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      LuxeStyle
      20th July 2017 at 15:23

      I’m so glad it’s not just me! I do find it hard sometimes not knowing whether people may take offence to things. I feel like some people are easily offended, but then I can see why some people get offended sometimes with things people say x

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    Ginersnapps
    25th July 2017 at 18:26

    I like this post a lot, very positive ? I’ve not experienced any bloggers who aren’t lovely yet but blogging has taught me that I write for myself-about what I love so it doesn’t matter if one person doesn’t agree X

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      LuxeStyle
      26th July 2017 at 13:32

      Thanks so much! Yes it’s definitely the best idea to write about you love, totally agree πŸ™‚ x

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    Dominique
    26th July 2017 at 20:32

    I love #5! It’s so true that through blogging you get to express and document something of your life that in hint sight really can give you all of the feels. It’s basically a compressed time machine!

    I think blogging has taught me to look beyond my own bedroom walls. On a daily basis I discover new things about others and myself through reading blogs.

    Love,
    Dominique

    http://www.fashionedbypluche.blogspot.com

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      LuxeStyle
      1st August 2017 at 11:31

      Yes it’s so great for reminding me of fabulous memories! It’s so nice to hear what blogging has taught everyone else too x

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    Vicki
    18th September 2017 at 09:44

    I’m totally with you on the “not wanting to critique others or be controversial” when you’re new. I’m in that space too and I don’t want to turn away those few followers I have. But then I don’t want to be bland either! Hard isn’t it

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      LuxeStyle
      21st September 2017 at 12:48

      It’s so difficult isn’t it! I’m glad it’s not just me who finds it hard to know what to do sometimes x

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